The mom of the family told me that on Christmas day, her kids were already finding their spare change to save so that the next year they would be prepared to help a family, too. She even recently told me about how they have been planning fundraisers so they can use the money made from that to contribute to the 2014 family. Love!
This gave me an idea...
I wanted to do something like that with Paige, too! However, Paige is still pretty young & doesn't get any money (including an allowance) at this time.
***My daughter Paige is 3. In my opinion, that's a gray area for allowance. I know that every family is different & has different ways of making allowance work for them (including not doing it), and I think that's great. I respect everyone's differences & love hearing about them & learning from them.
So, I sat on that idea for a bit until I could figure out a way to make it work.
Eventually, I decided that the end goals were to give to others & to help Paige feel the happiness that comes when you help others.
Once I realized that, I figured, why not fight fire with fire?
So, we put together a jar. I call it our Love Jar.
I just decorated it with some simple hearts & twine. I'm all about simple!
I explained to Paige that I'd love for us to start saving our money so we can help another family next Christmas (or before then if we see a need). Paige was excited & wanted to help. I told her that she could earn money whenever she did something nice without me asking.
Every time she shares, she gets a coin.
Every time she helps me do the dishes, she gets a coin.
Every time she cleans up without me asking, she gets a coin.
*Now, I know this could be considered an allowance, but it's not a traditional allowance since she's not expected to do it & since it's something she has to do without me asking.
Every time she does something kind, loving or nice, I get really excited, give her a big hug & then let her pick out the coin of her choice to put in our Love Jar. We usually end by giving some high fives.
She's loved this & it has given me more opportunities to focus on giving her more positive compliments, too.
So really, I feel like this is isn't just helping Paige, but it's helping me to be a better mom ... not something I expected, but something I'm excited about, too!
Once we see a need to use the money to help someone, I'll let Paige decide if she wants to keep half of the money for herself, or give it all away. I'll be 100% supportive of either decision she makes, but she's already taught me a thing or two about giving (read about that here), so I wouldn't be surprised if SHE taught ME again!
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